(L)ife (G)ets (B)etter (T)ogether.

It is appalling to know how easily has The S/C with a simple judgment, stranded the life a whole community of people- LGBT. Minority it may be, but is a Community as a whole! 

India boasts of its democratic governance by establishing its rights and duties on its citizens and we proudly talk about our freedoms as our natural birthright. If there is a grant of so much freedom in this country and a panorama involving exaggerated talks of modernity, then why is a whole community complaining of being devoid of a crucial right, THE RIGHT TO LOVE!
We live in a society where we are made to understand from the start that,
“When Virginity is lost, Love is profound.” Hence we are made to believe that we should become “Impure” *mark these words* only with the person who we believe we are going to spend the rest of our lives with. And, going by this teaching,
If Love is Emboldened by Consensual Sex, why are we depriving the LGBT of Loving?

The hullaballoo that has risen due to the S/C’s judgment about ‘These Minorities going against the conducted ways of life’ has actually flung a dung of shame on the nation’s governance and demonstrated the most unjust jurisdiction of this republic in the 21^st century.

We have well traversed from the ages of “Balika Vadhu” and Widow Marriages Extra Marital Affairs and Live-In flings. Irrespective of the acceptance, at least the participation has surely set in. If all this is not considered offensive to the overhyped Indian traditions, then the request by LGBT community is surely a very trivial one, I guess.

At the age of 18, Indian Citizens are declared ADULT enough, to Vote, to have Sex and (Girls are also allowed) to Marry. Then why deprive these minorities of LOVE?
Is this decision of the S/C due to the fear of the next generation’s choice of making whoopee to a person of the same gender or due to the fear of scarcity of natural child birth?

Whatever may be the reason, I believe,

LOVE KNOWS NO…AGE, COLOR OR STATUS
LOVE ALSO KNOWS NO GENDER!

Uncalled Prejudice

Retrospection...what we all do at various moments in our lives. Well, I do it pretty frequently, considering the fact hat I need to come up with a sensible to update my blog with. Especially, after the usual hampering that my mom gives me for whiling away my time instead of doing something useful on my blog.

Mums, I tell you.
 
Okay, so on one of those instances when I was retrospecting, my thoughts went back to my Freshers Night and that was the first time I had a taxi ride at night with friends..GIRLFRIENDS. We had a lot of discussion about our safety and other concerns thoroughly and throughout the week before the party, with a lot of cajoling, I got all my friends to taking a cab and assuring safety by ME (Oh yes, me!), well, you'll get the Pun only if you've seen me cause I'm known as 'kaadi'. :'D

With thorough arrangements of bookings made by me for the night, every other iota of concern was put to rest. And, as Mumbaikar teen-girls, we were completely party-zoned on the eve of the freshers. But, then to the end of the night, as rang the message tone of my cell, I checked to realize it was the cab driver's details which had been messaged to me. With some unrequited interest, I glanced at the screen and locked it back into my pocket.

But, it was only after the two hours of carefree fun, when I had to call the driver, did I notice the name of the driver...nothing very unusual, just a Muslim name. With that Muslim name, came back the concerned thoughts of personal and peer safety. The revolving thoughts ended at nothing less that my own Rape. Yes, I went so much into introspecting my own rape, and Why? Because, I saw a Muslim name on my phone screen.
I personally have all my life felt and spoken about being the least prejudiced of every other person.

But, after such a long line of thought, just on the basis of a name which has brought distorted thoughts to my mind, how can I proudly state that, "I'm a secular citizen with not even an iota of mistrust lingering in my mind for my fellow citizens due to the different barriers amongst us?"


Think & Start Answering, to no one in particular, but to Yourself.
Do the differences or barriers actually affect our thoughts regarding a person?
If No, I appreciate you!
If yes, Why are we still so narrow minded living in the 21st century?
If you don't know, High time, you start introspecting, 'Cause I've begun. :)

GROWING UP! :P

As time passes  by, gradually eroding away certain memories we have spent with few people which probably do not hold any meaning in our lives now, but until earlier, during “Those times”, they were the pillar of strength on which our lives used to move forth. Though, we never ask for certain things, ultimately we do end up severing bonds with certain people, knowingly or unknowingly ascertaining the differences that we never used to cite before. We may give this parting various names such as- Attaining maturity; Coming to realizations or “Probably it just had to happen the way it did…” But, why can’t we instead put in a moment of thought to analyze the mistakes committed and rather give a Second Chance?!

Many people like to believe that they are “Forgive and Forget” people, (Like ME. :P), but don’t they know, that they are only openly lying to themselves as well as people around them! No wonder, when we say, “A Child is a fresh work of the Divine” because that divinity is exactly what is engraved in their innocence. Like, when we are young, meagerly an year or two, we do not put a lot of thought into the results of our actions and innocence plays quite a good defender for us. But as we grow up, we grow more conscious about our surroundings, about people’s remarks and their talks, thus we start paying more attention to the faults of the other person and as to how many times the person has tried to wrong us!

The optimism within us gets replaced with ever-growing pessimistic attitude and it provides an entry for pangs of envy, jealousy and overtly-egoistic attitude! L
Man lives in a Hellish-World, doesn’t he?!
Demons over-grow within him suppressing the inner angels. LUGUBRIOUS, indeed!                                                                                                 
                                              

Pink and Black.

“BABE, How’s my PINK nail-polish?? Isn’t it the Barbie shade?”

 Ha-ha ! So typically girlish…ain’t it?

“DUDE, what’s the color of your polish, ain’t it BLACK?”

And this one…is..the rocker chick !


           Being a “RED” person, (as I like to call myself !) ; I have realized every girl has two prominent colors playing equal roles within her- PINK ‘and’ BLACK! Probably many girls might condemn it but, it is true !

            A beautiful, long yet an interesting journey with innumerable hurdles, pleasant and precious moments and certain irreversible de trop times constitute the life of a girl! PINK ‘and’ BLACK- two colors exhibiting the strong, opposing sentiments existing within her. Her ‘Pink’ side shows her sensitivity, her responsible and her caring nature which dominates her personality during times of Emotional Upheaval- during times when she carries a new womb in her life; during the time when she parts her soul, body, respect and her complete self to her partner; during the time when she catches up with her best friend after a long duration in order to cover up for the incessant talks piled up! At all these times, even though her Black side which resembles Strength, Will-power, Self-confidence backs out a bit, it is still there…hidden inside her…to come out and reflect the split personality in her when the situation requires her to do so!

                Certain moments are a mixture of both the colors, like, while falling out with your girl-friend on small matters only to again sit back and laugh over the stupid reason of their fight…In spite of the respective girl’s egos during the fights; the emotional bond that each girl possesses, does not allow her to be lonely ever; to continue to brood over the fight instead of patching up!

            PINK ‘and’ BLACK exists in the lives of every girl, lady and woman- how much ever you look into the past or the future, how much ever superstitious you are, how much ever practical you get! There is also a transition which is noticeable in girls from PINK to BLACK. PINK is the color that dominates the childhood and preteen days but when the girl is in the formative years before becoming a ‘lady’, she acquires the color BLACK. Though later on, both of them take up to their respective roles!

              If Gossip is her Pink side, Bitching is her black..if first love is her pink side then controlling herself after a break-up is her black side. Some girls don’t get the opportunity to live their pink side to the fullest and therefore take up to black, sooner than usual and such girls are then termed as – B*****S in the contemporary times who are known to be heartless..and all, but when we actually peek at the inner self of these girls, we realize how softly bound they are, sensitivity is at its best amongst such girls.

              These instances that every girl goes through rewards her by making her life colorful enough to not let her notice that she is actually made up of-

                                           PINK & BLACK.

 

 

Assumptions and Expectations!

 
Assumptions and expectations walk hand in hand in human beings. Right from the time we are born, our parents start mounting up their expectations on us not realizing that we may not be capable enough to fulfill all their desires to the fullest extent. On second thoughts, it is actually assumptions which create expectations ultimately, because once it is assumed that a person can execute a particular task, it is expected of that person to satisfy it to the required effect. Burdening ourselves has become more of a habit these days, and no, it may probably not be something that we ask for but are just invested with...and not by a person or two but by everyone with whom we acquaint ourselves.

If we actually take a note of it, do we realize that people approach us, only for getting their expectations fulfilled by us, right from our parents to our friends to even god-damn strangers!
We may rather be compared to donkeys than the much level-headed antecedent apes. The burden on the backs of the donkeys should be compared to our noetic burden and the expectations due to the burden. Well, talking about assumptions, our world trots only on them, for instance, “If a child scores above 90% in 10^th, he’ll crack the IIT and become an Engineer.” “If the child has taken up Arts, he/she is just an average student.” And, of course, it just does not limit to study, but is extended to every other topic on earth and from there starts people’s favorite past-time: Gossip. It is this Gossip on which people in the 21^st century live on, and if the assumptions don’t suffice, there are ready-made stories well woven ready to be served at a Kitty Party or at the club. So typical, ain’t it?!

When will people start realizing, there is a personal life worth living?! There is something known as privacy which matters to every individual. People love it when they are not at the receiving end, but when they are the primary people in it, they dislike it. Why only blame parents when even our friends, close friends, girl/boy-friend, wife/ husband also assume and expect things from us? It is much of a normal thing now, to be exact; it is more of a Cliche and a Habit now, something that now even we have become happily adjusted to and living with, without any complaints! That is how life is, teaches us, we can live with whatever comes and goes by and so will these assumptions and expectations.